Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
The method we use to help couples understand and change difficult patterns within their relationship is Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT). The aim of EFT is to help partners create a safe and secure bond with one another in order to feel more connected and ultimately more satisfied within the relationship.
EFT was developed by Dr. Sue Johnson and Les Greenberg in the early 1980’s. It is based on John Bowlby’s attachment theory. Bowlby discovered that humans have an innate need to connect and bond with others in order to thrive. In other words, when we feel connected to our partner and they are emotionally responsive to our needs, we are better able to handle the ups and downs that occur in our lives.
There is a widening body of research supporting the efficacy of EFT. To date, research studies find that 70-75% of couples receiving EFT will shift from distress to recovery and 90% will experience dramatic improvements within their relationship.
During the therapy process we will focus on how you and your partner interact, both verbally and non-verbally. During each consultation we will explore the patterns within the relationship and how they unfold within the session, in the here-and-now.
My role as the therapist is to act as an unbiased third party who will support both you and your partner equally. I will also help create a safe environment where both of you can explore and express your needs to each other in order to strengthen and deepen your connection.
The average length of treatment is 8-20 sessions and varies depending on the issue(s) at hand. Sessions are usually held once a week.
EFT may be helpful for you and your partner when you:
• Feel like you are no longer in sync with one another
• Argue or disagree more frequently, yet nothing gets resolved
• Experience lack of trust within the relationship
• Believe your partner does not listen to or value you
• Notice a decrease or absence of intimacy
• Want to strengthen the bond you have or once had together